Education is introduced as easy yet soon becomes grueling for many. Kids can’t leave K-12 curriculum. So some of them suffer through it. There are programs for those who struggle.
The School-Work Association
School is preparation for work. That’s obvious. Unfortunately, the details are overlooked. Most people work day shift jobs. Kids attend school within the same time frame. In both scenarios, attendance, punctuality, obedience to authority, development, and performance are emphasized. They get graded on it. Employees get paid for it. If those principles are violated, kids get detention, phone calls to parents, or suspensions. When workers do it, they get counseled, written up, or terminated.
A Bad Fit
Professionally unhappy adults continue gagging on bad jobs or wrong jobs because of the money. No wonder adults tend to hate (or dislike or remain unchallenged by) their work. They tolerate the wrong positions for too long (or at all). Kids unknowingly pick up on parents’ hidden feelings and opinions. Then they subconsciously emulate that behavior. Parents rarely tell children a bad fit exists.
Most parents wait until high school to pressure kids into choosing a career. That’s probably because the schools emphasize it then. If they dread the world of work, why wouldn’t their kids?
Oh, the Fear
Kids so fear disappointing parents academically that they’ll lie to avoid it. It could be about wanting to enroll in college. Maybe it’s about what jobs they want. They’ll say they’re aiming for the moon. It’s to relieve the pressure on them. They don’t realize that it doesn’t end. The parental pressure matures into professional pressure from peers and bosses.
On the upside, parental opinions matter to them. On the downside, they don’t think parents will accept disagreement on one of the biggest decisions in life. They also fear the consequences of standing by their words. Again, school is preparation for the workforce.
They shouldn’t have to suffer like this. We should be interested in directing them toward fulfilling work. Adults’ negative experiences in the professional realm don’t have to be theirs. A parent would have to construct a plan to change careers. Kids wouldn’t. To qualify for a dream job, Mom or Dad may have to volunteer or take a second job. Kids wouldn’t have to do anything that would jeopardize their personal relationships.
Think of all the things that would be asking a lot (or too much) of an established adult. Starting over, becoming the newbie, and internship are actions kids can safely take now. It’s early, so they are like blank slates. They have long futures ahead of them.
When they first start having academic problems, hire that tutor. Enroll them in summer school. Don’t wait until it is a gargantuan, costly task requiring surrender. Give them assessment and personality tests. They’ve probably got a marketable job skill they wouldn’t hate to use. With the proper launch, they’ll land on the moon.