Why There Shouldn’t Be a Stigma Regarding Do-Overs

Is repeating a grade such a bad thing? Flunking is an ugly but honest word. Being held back is a gentler truth. It still exists. It’s a temporary setback for the greater good. At some point, neither it nor the deficit will show. That’s the basic idea behind tutoring and summer school in the first place. Both options keep the student on track for promotion or graduation.


Repeating a Subject

Then there’s repeating one course. Many students sweat the months of April and May each year. “Am I going to pass?” Passing is about pride versus humiliation when there’s a lack of planning. This was true when school used to start in September as a rule. Even with an extra month in the school year provided by starting in August, it remains. Their concern abides over at least one subject late in the school year despite many advantages. The fall semester ends before late December, which allows a truly relaxed winter break. Spring break is at least a week long, maybe two in some places. There are assorted holidays within the school year that generally aren’t observed in the world of work.



As previously mentioned, of course, there’s tutoring. It’s free via the school district. Others opt to pay for the service. Tutoring can prevent repeating a course or grade. Done in second semester, it is ideal for topics taught in that time frame.

Unfortunately, there are two ways this can go. One is that it can make the difference. The other is that depending on some things, it may not.

Tutoring agencies give pretests that identify deficits. A student with fifth grade level math skills during seventh grade may not pass. It’s unlikely that he will learn two years’ worth of material in two months even with daily tutoring. It’s normally done two or three times a week to avoid dependency.

The question becomes whether to fill those gaps once and for all or aim for homework help. The former will involve a massive effort that falls short. The latter choice prolongs the suffering.


Looking Forward

If a student has several years of basic education left, repeating a course would do her a great favor. For one, it would end the revenge of knowledge gaps in the applicable subject. She could move forward into successive courses with confidence. Even with only a few years of school left, graduation and getting a job proves the goal was met. Except for college entrance exams and certain jobs, only basic math is required for adults. Remedial courses are another option.


When Aiming High Is a Lofty Goal

If your child likes puppies and dogs, that’s great. It isn’t a sign that he or she should become a veterinarian. There’s a big difference between the two.

At the local animal shelter, there’s a veterinarian with an attached clinic. Pets with illnesses are there.

The shelter staff has office employees that help with the pets brought there. They maintain vaccination schedules and records for local pets. They know which vaccinations pets need, including how many rounds and the cost. They will make an appointment for the next vaccine.

These people all work with animals. Only one of them is the veterinarian. The vet works with all domestic animals.

Your kid only likes dogs and cats or puppies and kittens. He or she is better off as animal shelter staff than as a veterinarian.

Sure, the veterinarian makes more money and has higher status. He or she should. A veterinarian is a doctor of veterinary medicine.

Your kid likes playing with baby animals. That’s not an interest in medicine. Remember that when you start dreaming for them. At some point, their own dreams for themselves will matter more than yours do.

The Overlooked Link Between School and Work

Education is introduced as easy yet soon becomes grueling for many. Kids can’t leave K-12 curriculum. So some of them suffer through it. There are programs for those who struggle.

The School-Work Association

School is preparation for work. That’s obvious. Unfortunately, the details are overlooked. Most people work day shift jobs. Kids attend school within the same time frame. In both scenarios, attendance, punctuality, obedience to authority, development, and performance are emphasized. They get graded on it. Employees get paid for it. If those principles are violated, kids get detention, phone calls to parents, or suspensions. When workers do it, they get counseled, written up, or terminated.

A Bad Fit

Professionally unhappy adults continue gagging on bad jobs or wrong jobs because of the money. No wonder adults tend to hate (or dislike or remain unchallenged by) their work. They tolerate the wrong positions for too long (or at all). Kids unknowingly pick up on parents’ hidden feelings and opinions. Then they subconsciously emulate that behavior. Parents rarely tell children a bad fit exists.

Most parents wait until high school to pressure kids into choosing a career. That’s probably because the schools emphasize it then. If they dread the world of work, why wouldn’t their kids?

Oh, the Fear

Kids so fear disappointing parents academically that they’ll lie to avoid it. It could be about wanting to enroll in college. Maybe it’s about what jobs they want. They’ll say they’re aiming for the moon. It’s to relieve the pressure on them. They don’t realize that it doesn’t end. The parental pressure matures into professional pressure from peers and bosses.

On the upside, parental opinions matter to them. On the downside, they don’t think parents will accept disagreement on one of the biggest decisions in life. They also fear the consequences of standing by their words. Again, school is preparation for the workforce.


They shouldn’t have to suffer like this. We should be interested in directing them toward fulfilling work. Adults’ negative experiences in the professional realm don’t have to be theirs. A parent would have to construct a plan to change careers. Kids wouldn’t. To qualify for a dream job, Mom or Dad may have to volunteer or take a second job. Kids wouldn’t have to do anything that would jeopardize their personal relationships.

Think of all the things that would be asking a lot (or too much) of an established adult. Starting over, becoming the newbie, and internship are actions kids can safely take now. It’s early, so they are like blank slates. They have long futures ahead of them.


When they first start having academic problems, hire that tutor. Enroll them in summer school. Don’t wait until it is a gargantuan, costly task requiring surrender. Give them assessment and personality tests. They’ve probably got a marketable job skill they wouldn’t hate to use. With the proper launch, they’ll land on the moon.

10+ Thoughts on Writing and Purging

When you write, you purge. Everything you have to say is being expressed via pen, pencil, paper, or device. The words are like tears in a way: they can only come out…Unlike tears, they can be expressed in actions as as well.

People may interpret purging as ridding themselves of something bad. Maybe that’s true. Others may be unable to contain their feelings or thoughts. That’s what makes writing a good emotional outlet or exercise. It’s highly recommended it for the repressed, depressed, and oppressed. The paper, pen, or PC will not judge or criticize you harshly. A variable exception would be the results of the grammar or spelling checker. Before the red pen arrives, you run the world in your mind.


How to Handle Grade 5 Math Homework with Grade 3 Math Skills

One of the hardest things about teaching and tutoring is the unidentified remedial student. A kid can be in Grade 5 but at the third-grade skill level. That’s a problem. It’s one thing for them to be in special education. It’s quite another when that need is unknown.


The Scenario

Let’s say the student gets tutoring for third-grade math. Since he’s a fifth grader, he’ll still be getting fifth-grade math homework. Even with tutoring, he’s still responsible for getting it done daily. This is presuming that he’s applying himself with the tutor. It won’t help him much to try studying both simultaneously. Chances are pretty good that the tutor isn’t trying to help him do that. In fact, the tutor probably wonders how the student managed Grade 4 math if he wasn’t ready.



It’s not the current teacher’s fault he’s been assigned beyond his comprehension. The tutor knows that. How did the Grade 4 teacher deal with the chasm in the student’s learning? The same could be asked about the Grade 3 teacher. These questions aren’t about finding fault with faculty. They’re about discovering the root cause.


A Shared Issue

The biggest fear is that the student won’t pass to the next grade level. With that comes social shame, peer ridicule, and humiliation. Probably no adult wants to put a kid through such academic trials. Without prevention, it will create cyclical stress every April or May. “Am I going to pass?”


Solutions and Sacrifice

The best thing is tutoring that begins at the level of comprehension. Cost and time should be distant considerations. Tutoring remedial students isn’t like tutoring a good student for a weekly test. It takes far longer. The Grade 3 skills should be reviewed. Then the Grade 4 skills should be taught when the student is ready. Following competency in that, Grade 5 skills can also be achieved. However, there is no telling how long this could take during a school year. Starting early is an advantage.


Parental Monitoring

Some schools perform a similar function with specialized attention (IEPs, etc.) and reassure parents that it works. During the next school year, the truth will be known. If the result is negative, the previous faculty are off the hook. The documented results on the reports will not be investigated or identified as lies. It happens, but it can’t be the end. That’s the time for parents to be proactive.


No Time for Quitters

Obstacles to executing this advice are typical. Many families find tutoring unaffordable. Others that qualify for free tutoring are not as cooperative as they could be. Numerous students are unwilling to make that extra effort despite its long-reaching benefits. The major sacrifice is that the assigned grade-level homework will be either undone or poorly done. Forward thinking proves that the skill deficit will eventually stop. The earlier in the student’s education this occurs, the easier it is to tolerate and overcome. Summer school is a recourse if needed. Quitting is an easy move. Fight!